MADE HS Blog Week 1

Week 1: Sex Matters
If an alien were to drop into Fort Mill High School, Nation Ford High School, Westminster Catawba, or even your local homeschool co-op to observe the local student culture, they would compile observations about what matters-most. What would they observe? Fortnite - Matters. Academic Success - matters! Health & Fitness - Matters. Sex - Matters!  Yes, even in our controlled circles like a private Christian school or a homeschool community, students are talking about sex - a lot! However, while an alien might decide sex matters a lot, our culture seems to devalue sex due to its normality and frequency in everyday conversations, txts, posts, etc. The majority of Netflix Originals are rated MA, Instagram classifies nudity as art, and over one million “encounters” are facilitated by the hookup app, Tinder, every seven days.

Therefore, while the topic of sex seems important in our culture, sex has become devalued to such a commodity that it holds little value/worth in the eyes of most teens. And yet the Word of God suggests a different way. The Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian Church in his first epistle: “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does.” - 1 Cor. 6:18 (NLT) What a big statement! Translation: sex matters - a lot! In his book, Swipe Right, Pastor Levi Lusko says that there is “life and death power” in our sexual relationships, and I couldn’t agree more.

Our Heavenly Father created sex. Let that settle in your heart for a moment. The same God who designed the stars and spoke them into existence also designed the sexual experience for His glory and for our pleasure. Yet just like so many other things, when we take this gift outside of His intended purpose, chaos ensues.

So what is God’s design for sexuality? And why should a high school student care? In his letter to the church in Ephesus, the Apostle Paul describes the ideal union between a husband and wife as loving (sacrificially), respectful (willingly), gentle, affectionate, pleasing, and mutually submissive. This type of union, the Apostle writes, is a mystery that reveals to us not only God’s design for sex in a New Testament context, but even a glimpse into the future of Christ and His church. Therefore, a few quick observations that can be discussed with your high school students this weekend:

Discussion Starters:
  1. What do you think the best-case scenario for a relationship is? 
  • Compare that with the qualities listed in Ephesians 5:25-33  (Recommended reading the MSG translation for this discussion.)

  1. How does your social understand of what’s appropriate for sex fit into God’s plan that we just read?
  • Which differences do you agree with?
  • Which do you disagree with?
  • How can I pray for you in this area? May I pray for you right now?

If the thought of discussing sex with your high school student feels overwhelming, pray for courage. If you feel unqualified because of your own lack of integrity in the past, pray for God to redeem past choices for future growth in your family. And if your student refuses to have this conversation with you, ask them if there is someone else in their life that they would feel comfortable having the conversation with.

1 Comment

gary - December 1st, 2019 at 1:36pm

I say this, brothers, the allotted time has grown short. From now on let those who have a wife be like those who don’t…for the form of this world is passing away.

-Paul of Tarsus, I Corinthians 7:29, 31b

Few passages in the letters of Paul convey the urgency of his End-Times expectations more clearly than his advice on sexual relations and marriage. Convinced the “last trumpet” could blow at any moment, Paul urged his followers to keep themselves sexually pure—“from now on,” in the time they have left, “it is good for a man not to have sex with a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). Although he makes concessions for those who lack self-control, Paul’s clear preference is a Christian household of brothers and sisters rather than husbands and wives, fathers and mothers.

Urging Christians to live celibate lives like his own does not presuppose Jesus’ return would take place decades, much less, centuries, in the future. As [James] Tabor notes, “[Paul] advised his followers not to marry, begin a new business, or worry if they were slaves, since everything in the world was about to be turned upside down and all social relations were terminal.” Paul desired to present the Church as a chaste virgin to the coming Lord, but the Lord left the anxious Church standing at the altar.

Robert Conner, The Case Against Miracles, pp. 278-279

Gary: Most Christians believe that Jesus communicated directly with Paul, in person, not only on the Damascus Road, but also during Paul’s time in the Arabian desert, and maybe on other occasions such as when Paul took an intergalactic space voyage to a “third heaven”. Yet after all that time with Jesus, Jesus never informs Paul that it is ok for married Christians to have sex—because Jesus doesn’t plan to return for a while (two thousand years and counting!!).

Just imagine, if the early Christians had all listened to Paul and had refrained from sex, Christianity would have died out very quickly! This is excellent evidence that Paul was not a prophet communicating with a resurrected god, he was a quack; a mentally disturbed QUACK!